Holistic Well-Being Service

Tanya Peterson a Holistic Counsellor shares with us her views on those who are in love or seeking love on Valentine’s Day.  Tanya says “Valentine’s day is a date in the calendar when many people experience a profound shift in their wellbeing, dependent on the actions of others they believe or hope, have feelings of love or attraction towards them.”

People, who receive gifts or cards from people they wish to receive them from, are elated - in themselves and when others comment on the positive significance of this.  For others, not in a relationship (and wanting one), a sense of sadness, depression and lack may overwhelm them.  They might even find ways to distract themselves from associated painful feelings e.g. dining with other singles or hoodwinking themselves into activities that act as useful excuses to others who enquire how they spend their valentines evening.   Some people in relationships feel anger or embarrassment towards their mate when asked by others regarding how their loved one demonstrated their affection.

Tanya asks “What do these scenarios have in common?” and explains that “They point to giving away your power to external expectations and myths of what things should, ought or must mean.”  Examine your own feelings on Valentine’s Day and seek other ways to evaluate others’ behaviour on your terms, not society’s, the media or external myths of what you should, ought or must receive, feel or give.

If you feel that you experience any negative reactions to your Valentines Day, if your day doesn’t measure up, you may find that counselling can help - this could be the most important investment in yourself, and your future.

These feelings happen for a reason, we may not always understand them, as we have evolved many of us have lost the ability to sense/know our true feelings we are too busy thinking, perhaps feeling torn and fragmented, suffering in both mind and body. Holistic counselling brings you back to being you, whole.

Tanya Peterson is a Holistic Counsellor (Adv Dip Holistic Counselling), Emotional Literacy Trainer and Reiki Master, is a member of the Australian Counselling Association.  You can learn more about Tanya on her website: www.tcpeterson-wellbeing-services.com or for appointments phone: 0417 988 962